Sometimes I Feel Inadequate

The truth is that sometimes, more like a lot of times, I feel inadequate here.

My views don’t always grow as quickly as I want them to.

My sales don’t always come as often as I want them to.

I don’t always get as many comments as I want to.

I become my own worst enemy when it comes to succeeding in the blog world far too often. I can take a minor mistake or a small slump in a portion of the business and turn it into a reason to quit completely. Obviously I haven’t done that, but it doesn’t mean that the thought doesn’t enter my mind and leave me feeling defeated, even if temporarily.

Sometimes I feel like I need to lead a different kind of life to rise to the top. Or that I need to like different things. Or that I need to dress a different way. All of these things making me fall short of my true life goal: to love who I am and the life that I live.

If there’s anything that this week and last week taught me, it’s that everyone has their own story on how they got to where they are today. Their own struggles. Their own triumphs. Their own heartache. Their own lessons. And all of these things make us unique. They make us stand out in a crowd instead of blending in. They make us a leader instead of a follower. They make us who we are, instead and out.

I know that my time will come. And it will be when I’m ready to appreciate what I’ve gone through to get here instead of just raising the bar every time. So here’s to waiting for that time. Here’s to appreciating my own strengths. Appreciating my own past. Celebrating and using my personality in my blog instead of trying to conform to someone else’s.

Here’s to being me and loving that person all the time.

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  1. amen. we all do it, but then we shake it off and take a fresh look at it again (usually when I am less tired).

  2. I hear ya, girl! Feel the same way sometimes! But believe me, you are not inadequate at all!

  3. Yes. All of this is SO true :-) Thank you for doing this amazing project this week and last week, because it's such a wonderful and positive reminder that those feelings are more like the monsters in our head than reality, and there is SO much good to find along the way, wherever it leads.

  4. You're one of the blogs I envy! You've got so much going on and so many participating. But you're right, there's no need to compare. Comparing leads to insincere blogging. Blogging for the page views isn't why any of us started in the first place.

  5. I love this post and can completely relate to it! :) Be the best version of yourself because there is no one like you – who you are is beautiful, inside and out! Thank you for being YOU Ashley – I love who you are! :))))

  6. I can totally relate to this post too… am trying my best to be myself and build up myself in this blogging world.

  7. Definitely can relate. I more often feel inadequate about my blog than I feel adequate! Rock on my friend, love what you're doing.

  8. Love this post and everything you said! I'm just starting out with my shop and blog and I don't know how many times I've thought, "I'm not good enough", "I can't do this", or "everyone else is SO much better". Thank you for the positive reinforcement. Stats, sales, comments, etc shouldn't matter when you're doing something you love and being yourself!

  9. Ashley, I have felt exactly this way a lot since I started blogging, and you know what? It is exactly why I wanted to participate in Blog Positivity Week! I could sense that I was becoming competitive about numbers and trying to "fit in" with what other bloggers were writing. So I took your brilliant link-up as an opportunity to acknowledge what I love about the blogging community! Thank you for that!

    You are wonderful, and you are a fantastic blogger and creator.

  10. I totally agree with all of the above. I feel the same way…a lot. I have lots of feelings of inadequacy on this blogging journey. More than I care to admit! I definitely agree, though, that it's about our own personal journey. If we are too busy conforming to some kind of "blogging standard" then we aren't being true to ourselves! Thank you for you!!


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