A new series about the sometimes better left unsaid thoughts on blogging.
You know all of those things that people say not to do when you’re a blogger?
Like blogging about things that you have no interest in just because they’re popular. Or doing things like giveaways or writing specific posts just to gain followers. Or following the unwritten rules of blogging that I thought were written in stone.
I’ve done them.
I’ve done all of them, most likely.
At one point in time, I was caught up in the “magic” of being a blogger. The thoughts that were fueled by fame and fortune. I wanted to be big, I wanted to be well-known, I wanted to be famous. And I wanted blogging to be a huge source of my income. Because I thought that the journey that led to that was for me.
I was ready to give everything up for it. I lost time with family. I lost sleep. I lost personal time. I missed out on experiences I will never get back. I missed out on moments that became only bits and pieces of my past instead of life changing memories. I missed out on being present, in my life, with my family.
I’m ashamed to admit these things because saying them out-loud makes them all that more real. But it’s true. And I don’t say it to trash my former self, or even to let you know how wrong I was. I say it to remind myself of how easy it is to forget your priorities and lose yourself in something that doesn’t really mean anything.
Say I did become a famous blogger. One that earned a substantial amount from my blog and was well-known across the blogging world. Hundreds of thousands of page views, and regular paying sponsors, and a committed audience that hung on my every word. What does that really mean? What does that really do for me, as a person? What goals or life dreams does that really get me any closer to checking off?
In the grand scheme of things, unfortunately it means close to nothing. It doesn’t make me a better person. It doesn’t grant me more compassion. It doesn’t make me a better wife, or friend, or mother to pets or children. It doesn’t make me appreciate what life has to offer and be grateful for my opportunities or chances.
None of it means anything at all unless it’s done the right way.
And the right way isn’t giving up time with my friends or family. The right way isn’t losing sleep or stressing out over emails. It isn’t about getting ahead of other people to claim my fame or my fortune. It isn’t about getting lost in priorities that don’t mean anything to me or my loved ones. It isn’t about selling out to just be another page that’s regularly read on the Internet.
The right way is about doing what’s right for you, in your own way, and letting it take a natural course. If you wind up rich and famous because of it, that’s wonderful. But if you don’t? That’s still wonderful.
Because you don’t have to be rich or famous to be a good person, or a good wife, or an excellent mother. You don’t have to be rich or famous to be present in your daily life and remember the beautiful moments that occur when you least expect it. Or to be happy or satisfied with your choices that you made in life. Or to be an inspiration to the people around you. Or to make friends and life long relationships.
You don’t have to be rich or famous to be an amazing blogger. I promise.